Howdy,

I remember informing you in my last post that I had a surprise series coming.

Drum rolls please…. da da da dum da da dum

I don’t know if that’s how drum rolls are supposed to sound but just be creative and imagine the drum roll sounds lol

The series is here and is titled; How To Approach A Woman.

An interesting title, right¿

Before we get into the first edition of this series; I would like to share the inspiration behind this series.

Over the years, I’ve come to realise that guys in quote don’t really know what to say when they approach a woman. Some either say to little and some say to much and others don’t even engage at all.

In general, guys are clueless when it comes to women and I don’t blame them there is no formal or informal setting that teaches them these stuffs.

Honestly, I thought of making this into a book seeing as I’ve come across a lot of people who really need this. But instead I’ll do a series.

How long will the series be¿ I don’t know as long as you keep enjoying.

So let’s get into this then. Ladies let me know if you agree with what I’m about to share and Guys grab your notepad as you are going to need it.

Let’s start with the most basic approach; I’ll call it the wayside approach.

I termed it the wayside approach because we are going to talk about how you approach a woman that you meet walking along the roadside or street.

I’m starting with this approach because it is very generic and applies to everyone but going forward the examples I will be using will be more complex.

So let’s say you are walking down the street and damn who is this you see¿ A ginger haired beauty with green eyes [ this is just an example so it’s fine you don’t fit into the category of the lady I mentioned]

90% of men would approach her and say something cheesy like ‘ hello beautiful’ or some other cringe worthy pick up line. Most of the time even if you do get a smile or a laugh from her , she won’t take you seriously.

Why do I say so¿ because this approach is very cliche and lacks a more personalised approach. It sounds like something that you can say to any random lady out there. And she has most likely heard that same line a thousand times before.

And I can already hear the whispers saying but I’ve tried this approach and its worked for me. Well if it has that’s good but it’s time to step up your game.

Instead here’s what you do, first study her before you approach. Mind you, this does not translate into being a STALKER or a CREEP

When I say study her a little, keyword; a little. Remember this your first encounter. Study too much and she most likely has already left before you can approach her. Study too little and this approach won’t work.

I can’t give you a ratio of time to spend watching her but I can give you what you are looking out for and once you’ve spotted this then you can engage or approach her.

What you are looking for is any subtle sign that gives away her interest. Now this could be a marvel shirt that she is putting on or a Selena Gomez song that she is humming or a book she is carrying…. it can be anything literally.

The reason you are looking out for this is to avoid the awkward and stereotypical questions like ‘how are you¿’ ‘what are you doing in the area¿’ ‘how is your day going¿’

Of course you can ask these questions but at the ending not starting with this. Because if you start with these generic questions there will be a lot of awkward silences and pauses and you don’t want that.

So let’s say the green eyed beauty is putting on an anime print shirt. BAM! That’s your sign. Now if you already like anime then you just walk up to her and say something like, ‘ I can’t help but notice that you are putting on ____, it just so happens to be one of my favourite anime’ This way you can talk about that anime and go into other anime too and find out more of her interest.

Now if you haven’t seen any anime; don’t sweat it. That’s why we have search engines like Google. So just go on Google and search for the anime or check for any other anime. And once you’ve gotten her contact and get home, so on an anime spree make sure you’re well knowledgeable before your next meeting.

I’m sure ladies reading can agree that this approach is more effective than just a regular hey. In the next edition, I will share an alternative for just incase you can’t find any signs of her potential interest.

So now I’ve told you how to begin the conversation; what you say in between is up to you but don’t f**k it up if not all my teaching has gone to waste.

How do you end the conversation, you ask for her phone number? Wrong!!

That’s way to common, if she stays around based on her body language you can tell if she likes you or not. I’ll do an edition on body language too. So if you can tell she likes you then suggest a meetup within the week. Don’t ask for her number. I repeat do not ask for her number with this approach.

If she doesn’t stay around then ask for her snap handle or instagram handle or anything just not her phone number.

Now the most important information; even if you haven’t learnt anything form this edition. Learn this; if she doesn’t show any sign of interest in you then respect yourself and LEAVE HER ALONE.

I hate to tell you but some people won’t just be interested in you and that’s not because something is wrong with you, they’re not just interested and that’s fine so you respect that and leave.

We’ve come to the end of this edition, Practice this and let me know how it went. I love hearing from you.

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Till next time,

Adios.