What could I possibly have for you in this edition¿

Take a guess¿ I’ll give you 10 seconds to do that.

And for those that aren’t bothering to take a guess and are just reading to find out what the answer is (which I would probably have done too if I were in your shoes)

Jokes on you because it probably took you 10 seconds to read that paragraph so I’ll go on and believe that you took those 10 seconds to guess.

If you haven’t already caught on, I’m terrible at building suspense or did I do a good job with those one¿

Okay, maybe not a good job but at least a decent one¿

Anyways, without further a do; I present to you today’s edition on the series The Art Of Approaching A Woman.

In this edition, I will be addressing a new approach and I will title this approach; the outdoor approach.

This approach comes to play when you are outside; at the beach, the park, the movies or an opera and then you spot a lady who you would want to approach for whatever reason.

Full disclaimer before we get into this approach; if she doesn’t show any signs of interest then respectfully leave the lady alone.

That disclaimer was very much needed as once you start to make her uncomfortable then you take a step back and be on your way.

So the outdoor approach, I’m thinking of a perfect example to use. Hmm, let’s say you are at a famous restaurant and you see this pretty black haired and brown eyes at a table not too far from yours.

Let’s say she has been sat alone for a while now and there was no male in sight, you’ve also took a quick sweep at her fingers and the ring is missing. So you decide to approach her.

How do you approach this lady who seems to be perfectly content in her own world and enjoying her meal or scrolling through her phone?

How do you intrude without it seem like you are intruding. And even get to be intrigued and want to actively listen to what you have to say?

It’s simple.

This time you don’t need to watch out for any signs as if you do this you will seem like a stalker or creep. And she will mostly likely not give you her contact details.

Walk up to her and politely ask if you can have a seat beside her or keep her company in the meantime.

This seems like common sense right? But common sense isn’t always common.

Now, some key things to note with this approach;

One, give enough space between you and her. Not too close that she is uncomfortable and not too far that you seem too much like a stranger.

While yes you are 100% a stranger, in that moment think if yourself as a friend that she is yet to meet.

Next and most importantly, ensure you have something meaningful to tell her so the conversation isn’t boring and awkward.

Guys, have it at the back of your mind your goal. And that Goal is to ensure that she is relaxed and comfortable around you. This can only be achieved when conversation flows naturally.

How do you ensure that conversation flows naturally?

If you are the movies then talk about the movie premiering that night or movies in general. If you’re at an Art Gallery or Exhibition then talk about Art. This is where the principle of Congruence comes in.

But for the example I gave; you will need to ask open ended questions. Questions that cannot be answered in a few words. A classic example of this is; What do you enjoy doing?

Make research on open ended questions and have a lost of them so you can pull from it at any such events. Then once the conversation has progressed to a certain height then you can introduce SUBTLE Compliments.

I have already given you the key to compliments in previous editions so I won’t reiterate.

Using this approach, be sure to get her contact details after the conversation. Yes, for this approach its allowed.

Mind you this approach may not work for everyone but it works most of the time, so it’s a sure bet.

I would say today’s edition was pretty self explanatory. The only aspect that was a bit confusing, is the aspect on the Principle of Congruence.

But don’t worry that will explained in my next post update so watch out for that.

Till next time,

Your friendly writer.