At one point in life, we struggle with making and keeping friends. This time occurs differently in everyone. To some it’s in their earlier stages of lives around the ages of 5 to 12, for some it comes in their teenage and young adult years which is very often. And it can even occur when one is in their late 40s. 

We come to a sudden realisation of one of 2 things. Either we have no true friends or we are surrounded by the wrong company. Regardless of this stage you are at, there’s a way you can get over that. 

By categorising your friends into types you know exactly what kind of friend you need and when someone walks into your life you know where they belong. 

1. The spiritual friend: 

This is your friend who prays for you and you go to spiritual advice. If you are christian, this is your church friend. That friend that encourages you to read your Bible, go to church, make a contribution to your society. 

This is the friend that you can share visions or dreams you have. The friend who you call to pray with you when you need someone to lean on spiritually, you call this friend. 

This is the person who makes sure that you aren’t neglecting your spiritual life as it is easy to fall off the train. 

2. The confidant friend: 

From the word, confidant, this is the friend you can confide in. This is the adviser, the one who always seems to have lived a thousand lives and has the best advice ever known to man. This is the friend who seems so wise, it’s shocking that they seem so young. 

Ultimately this is the friend who you can share your wins with. The friend who you can call up and say, hey I just achieved this goal or I made x amount of money from this investment and they would genuinely celebrate your win. 

You can’t share your wins with everyone of your friends, jealousy and envy is real so this is the friend who genuinely roots for you and will celebrate your wins without a dagger ready to dig into you.

3. The covenant friend: 

This is your ride or die. The friend who you’re on your personal development with. That friend who can look you in the eye and tell you, ‘that character you have is shut, you need to change it.’ This is the friend who will remind you of your self worth when you are drunk and thinking of calling your toxic ex. 

This is the friend that will remind you that you’re a diet or of your 30 day no soda challenge. This is the friend that is always there. The friend you can call when you’re down and crying in the middle of the night and you know they’ll always pick. 

4. The hospitable friend: 

This friend cares deeply about your well-being. They want you to be fine in all senses of that word. They’re the friend who in the group, glues everyone together because they all always check in. 

When the group chat is quiet, they’re the first to speak and draw everyone out of their shell. This is the friend who randoy calls on a Tuesday night wondering if you are fine because they haven’t heard from you in a few days. This is the friend who always cares and shows that they care. 

5. The Hitman: 

This right here is the friend ready to throw hands. This is the friend who you can’t call to bail you out of jail because they will be sitting right beside you in that cell. 

This is the friend who you can call and say, someone hurts you and they need to pull up and they will be there faster than flash ready to get you out in that situation. 

This is the muscle of the group, the one who knows how to fight and would get you out of any situation. This is the friend you call when some guys at a bar are bothering you. 

Closing Remarks 

Sometimes one friend checks 2 out of these boxes, some even 3 however it is very rare to find all 5 types in one person. And if you have at least one type of these friends then you need to call them up and appreciate their presence in your life. 

You can’t do life alone, a clan, a family, a squad, a circle, a group… Whatever you want, you need to find yourself some of these people. 

This is also the time to do some serious inventory of the friends you have and start rooting out the weeds while planting new fruitful seeds in your life so one day you might look around and see that you’re no longer a tree but an entire garden.