This is my table which I will be talking about because it needs to be addressed. As a society can we stop making it a flex when someone says, ‘oh I haven’t eaten all day.’

This post is addressed to both men and women. Why do we try to glamourize having a struggle eating and then playing it off as cute.

I might just be the CEO of this table because this is me. I have a very weird relationship with food which I am not comfortable addressing at the moment however I think more people need to start doing 2 things,

1. Eating regularly.

2. Not shaming other people for having healthy eating patterns when yours is just unhealthy.

Rather than think it’s cute that your friend ate her last meal by 3pm the day prior, make her understand the damage what she is doing to her body. Do not yell or try to force your point because that never works.

But actually have a conversation about it. Last semester I was probably at my worst relationship with food as I would often faint because I hadn’t eaten in like a couple days and I couldn’t figure out why this was, I just knew I didn’t have an appetite so I didn’t eat.

Shortly after one of these faint episodes, My friend sat me down and bless her for doing so. She effectively communicated how this lifestyle wasn’t healthy and brought up some solutions that she thought would boost my appetite.

One of her suggestions was, we cook together or she alternates cooking for me if cooking was the problem.

I was deeply touched that she cared enough to not just speak about it but tell me to my face that this habit I had built was unhealthy and would have adverse effects in the future.

The change didn’t come immediately obviously, but after a couple of months even if I still struggle with eating and eating on time, I understand that the pattern I have built is unhealthy and will cause significant harm to me in the future.

Afterall, if I don’t take care of my body, Where would I live?

I have a much healthier relationship with food, although it isn’t where I want it to be, and I intend to build on that moving forward.

Moral of the story.

Don’t glamourize your friends’ poor eating habits by calling it cute, call it what it is ‘unhealthy’ and make them see the reason why they should change. Give attention to the things that matter, which is ensuring that your friend builds healthy patterns. And ‘friend’ please be ready to change and drop that pattern.