9 out 10 times when you see a woman who is not a feminist the first she says is, I’m not a feminist, I like cooking or I know how to cook.

Now, I’m a feminist and I don’t know how to cook but me not knowing how to cook has nothing to do with my feminist ideologies, I just don’t know how to and as a university student I’m struggling to learn how to cook because I need it for survival on some days.

But Here’s the thing. What feminism is fighting for is way more than whether or not a woman is stuck in the kitchen cooking. Many women fail to realise that past feminists fought for the ‘rights’ we now enjoy today.

It’s not just about cooking, it’s about being able to work and being treated equally in the workplace, being able to vote, having a say in society, being able to open something as simple as a bank account and being viewed as way more than a property of your father or husband.

There are levels and layers and layers to this concept. So next time you say you’re not a feminist think twice about what you mean. Because what you are saying is I would like to live as an object who has no say in what goes on in their lives because that’s what it was once like for women.

Whether or not you can or cannot cook, choose to be a housewife or a working mom, it doesn’t change that you can also be a feminist, because feminism gives you a choice.

We shouldn’t make a villain out of the mother who chooses to chase a career after childbirth and neither should the woman who stays home to take the kids be seen as pathetic because the job description of a mother doesn’t come with work hours.

Lastly as a society can we agree that we are too obsessed with women and how they choose to live their lives.