We are not your lab rats. 

Remember the last time you thought, I won’t tell them what’s wrong now, I’ll see how it long it takes for them to notice I’m in a bad mood? 

The last time you secretly put your friendships or relationships to the test and you ended up being hurt because they didn’t react how you pictured they would. Or they didn’t follow your well thought out 3 part script? 

And for some reason because they failed you assumed they liked you less or weren’t as involved which is why they failed the test. 

But here’s the thing about tests, they suck. No one likes being tested within the 4 walls of a lecture room talk less of in the real world. The only thing worse than a test is a test you didn’t even know you were taking. That one assignment that you didn’t put your best effort (due to many reasons) suddenly turns out to be worth half of the grade. 

People are not trained monkey… 

They don’t dance because you tell them to. They are humans with real emotions and lives outside of you. You can’t program them to respond how you want but you can tell them and if they care they would listen and act accordingly. You’re not a puppeteer and it’s unfair to pull invisible strings like that. 

Because they don’t know they are secretly being graded. Instead just talk, tell them what’s wrong rather than trying to play it off cool to see who loves you the most. 

These little tests are killing your relationships because for every time they don’t act in line, a piece  of that friendship dies. They fail a couple more times and you’re second guessing if they even liked you to begin with or why you’re still hanging around them. 

Humans aren’t perfect they’re just people… 

They will fail again and again but not on test results, sometimes not even intentionally. But they’ll keep trying because it’s never easy and with so many obstacles you have no idea what’s going through their minds, how their lives are changing while you stand to the side with a scoreboard. 

Be honest about how you feel and how they respond will show you better than any score sheet every could because you would hate to tested if you didn’t already know ahead of time and was working your ass off to ace it.