We all know the Jenga game takes immense concentration to play and it’s often fun when someone loses their composure and knocks over the blocks.
However this game can teach us a lesson on how to stop being a people pleaser.
Most times we realize that we tend to change ourselves to fit into the perspectives others have of us.
We tend to pretend to like a particular sport or feign interest in a particular movie because our friends do.
We imagine that if we don’t, then the friendship ends.
And we don’t want that. We enjoy their company too much that we decide to just compromise. We try to fit in.
Even when they push our boundaries we tell ourselves that it’s not a big deal.
We will be fine after all there was no damage done, right?
Wrong.
The damage was there, we just didn’t see it. It’s like when playing the Jenga game.
Each boundary that is crossed, each insecurity that is mocked and we say nothing is like a block being removed from the Jenga.
Slowly and steady. The structure doesn’t tunble at first but after a while instead of a full structure of blocks there are now gaping holes.
So that when society demands that we show up as ourself we have no sense of self and no idea as to who we are anymore.
Because we’ve put ourselves last and others first, we can no longer pinpoint where others end and we begin.
This keeps on going on until the structure tumbles down.
How to apply the Jenga Analogy.
See each peice of you as a block in the game and realize that whenever you comform to the uncomfortable you are allowing someone chip away at your self esteem/confidence.
You are allowing them passage to contribute to the choas that will soon cause you to crash.
Understand this and be aware of your boundaries and speak up when they are being crossed. Don’t just sit quiet and take in, state your displeasure.
So that slowly you can begin to piece yourself together and have a clear sense of who you are and what your boundaries are.
Closing remarks.
Know your boundaries and let others know when they cross them.
If they change then that’s good and if not then you have to move on without them.
You are more important.
I hope you found this post insightful and entertaining.
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