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Breathe, Live & Smile

Welcome to October, the next book on our one week journey is the midnight library by Matt Haig. 

I would just like to state that if you are struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts and your self esteem then this is a book that you should absolutely read. 

Trigger warning there will be mentions of suicide, depression, drug overdose and much more in the preceding paragraphs. 

Summary of midnight library by Matt Haig. 

The entire premise of the book is that in between life and death there is a library and on the shelves that go on for miles and miles there are books. 

Each book contains the story of a life you could have lived differently simply by changing on a decision you made. 

Essentially how one single seemingly small choice made can change your entire life. 

The book opens with this woman and a countdown to when she plans to commit suicide. 

I immediately think it’s a bluff and she won’t do it but the time reached zero, she did. She overdosed on her anti depressant medications.

So now she’s at this library faced with an infinite amount of lives to live albeit there are rules. 

And this book just kept me on the edge of my seat. I read it in the span of 2 days because I was so eager to see what would happen next until I got to the last sentence. 

Lessons to be learnt from the Midnight Library.

  • Change your perspective not your surrounding: 

It’s easy to think your environment is the issue. Oh the country you live in, Oh the neighbourhood, Oh the people… the list is endless. 

But oftentimes the environment is the same regardless what needs to change is your perspective. 

They say to the optimist the glass is half full and to the pessimist the glass is half empty. However there is water in the cup so drink that shit and don’t complain. 

The character in the midnight library was seemingly unhappy with everything and everyone. She couldn’t see the reason to keep living, she neglected the little things. 

When faced with other choices of the burdens others carry, you’ll be surprised just how quickly you’ll still choose to carry your burdens.

Change your perspective first. When faced with your life and all the choices you could have made differently you might just find that you’ll wish to change nothing. 

  • Never ponder on your regrets because you can’t tell how those would have turned out:

Regret is the one baggage that follows everyone around. We regret even the little choices we made but those don’t weigh us down as heavy as the big regrets we carry around. 

I wish I had chosen a different career, I wish I had made better decisions with my money, I wish I had gone to the gym, I wish I was famous, … I wish and wish

We see the life we currently live in as mediocre in comparison to the lives we could have lived. Well our protagonist was presented with that option of righting her wrongs. 

And you know what she found? 

Even while living those different lives, she battled depression. In the first few lives she lived, she had a bottle of antidepressant just like she did in her regular life. 

She came to realize that some of the regrets she had were baseless. An example would be her regret for not marrying her boyfriend who she thought was great. 

She wished for a life where she had married him and you know what happened if she had married him? 

He would have later gone on to fall out of love with her and cheat on her. 

She regretted not moving cross country with her friend but if she had done that, her friend would have later gone on to be involved in a car accident and died. 

There were multiple lives, some in which this same boyfriend was begging her to marry him, some in which her best friend was alive and some where she was dead… the variations were limitless. 

Don’t let your regrets weigh down on you, if there’s still time to change it then change it and if not, accept it, forgive yourself and move on.

You only have One Life, just one so live it. 

Stealing a Quote from the book, 

“Life is about living it.” 

Don’t be bothered by trying to understand it or make the best of it, just live each day.


4 responses to “2 Important Life Lessons I learnt from the Midnight Library by Matt Haig.”

  1. Ar.Jenita avatar

    Thanks for the elaborate view of the book. The whole summary and the key takeaways are clear. It sounds so well to me as if I have read and taken notes. It’s indeed a real challenge of letting go of all that I wish statements. Recently, I have one on that I wish category haunting me. Now after reading your post, I reassured myself to let go of that I wish thing on my mind and live my life I have now in the present. It’s a call everyone should make with full awareness, especially when people always see others on social media platforms and think it to be the real life and regret their lives.

    I am glad you read and posted about it. I never knew this book existed. I appreciate you for the time you took to finish that book and to write it all in your blog.

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    1. Write_rspace avatar

      I am so glad this post inspired you to let go that ‘I wish’, everyone carries regret around with little to nothing they can do in the present to change it. It takes a lot of courage to finally let go of it and I’m glad you’re committing to.

      I was scrolling through TikTok one day when I saw a video in which someone recommended reading the book and I decided to get it because at the time, I just finished reading another book. I’m glad I read it, it really gave me a different perspective on my life and the regrets I ponder on.

      Seeing how the character’s life could have been different in bad/ less bad ways if she lived out those regrets was an eye opener.
      All leading back to the point that for every choice there is a sacrifice to be made and that even the life you really want to live will still be filled with it’s own fair share of regrets and joy.

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      1. Ar.Jenita avatar

        Ya those regrets haunt badly and I couldn’t get over it as an emotional response. Your write up gives a rational thought which was needed for me. I hope many out there like me also will benefit from this.

        Woah.. watching that titktok video was worth it too. 😅

        Ya sometimes we need life lessons and realizations by witnessing other people’s real life situations or by hearing about them or reading it.

        It’s absolutely 💯 true that every thought and action comes with a price and we never make choices fully aware of that price. We just think, act up on a predicament. We humans can never escape that reality of paying the price for our choices but we fail to understand and accept it in all circumstances including me.

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      2. Write_rspace avatar

        You worded that perfectly… We seem to forget the price when we make the decision but then when it’s time to pay it, it suddenly occurs that we are to pay for that choice.

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